Sex Games to Play Over the Phone, Played With a Real Woman

Why games work so well on the phone

On the phone you can't see each other, so everything happens in the imagination — and rules make the imagination behave. A game gives the call a shape: a beginning, a little suspense, a winner and a prize. It also takes the pressure off. You don't have to know what to say next; the game tells you. That's why shy callers love phone sex games, and why couples in long-distance relationships use them to keep things fun instead of repetitive. Here are the ten that work best, from gentle to wicked.

1. Guess what I'm wearing

The classic, and still the best opener. You get three questions, yes or no only, before you have to guess what I have on. Every wrong guess costs you something — a confession, a compliment, a minute of doing exactly what I say. It's playful, it's voice-only, and by the time you guess right you've already pictured me five different ways. I worked as a flight attendant and as a hotel manager, so trust me: my closet has more uniforms than you'd think.

2. Truth or dare, phone edition

Truth or dare is perfect for a call because the truths are the hot part. "Tell me the last fantasy you had about me." "What would you do if I were in your doorway right now?" The dares stay simple and safe: say something out loud you've never said, move to the bed, put the phone on speaker and let me hear you. We agree on limits first, and a "pass" is always allowed — it just costs you a truth.

3. Would you rather

Two choices, no third option, and you have to explain your answer. "Would you rather I whisper or give orders?" "Would you rather watch me get dressed or undressed?" It sounds innocent and it isn't: in five minutes I know more about what turns you on than most partners learn in a month. It's my favorite game for first calls, because the rest of the call writes itself from your answers.

4. The edging countdown

This is the game men call back for. I count down from ten; you're only allowed to finish at zero. Except I rarely get to zero. I stop at three, make you hold, and start over — sometimes from ten, sometimes from seven, never where you expect. You lose if you finish early. You win if you make it to the end, and the prize is permission. Full details on my edging phone sex page.

5. JOI dice

Roll a real die (or let me roll one on my side of the line). Each number is an instruction: one means slow, two means stop for ten seconds, three means faster, four means describe what you're doing, five means my choice, six means a reward. It's JOI phone sex with a little luck thrown in, and the unpredictability makes it much harder to rush.

6. Hot and cold

One of us thinks of a fantasy and the other has to find it, one question at a time, while the first player only answers "warmer" or "colder." When it's my turn to hide a fantasy, you'll be amazed how long a man will keep asking questions to find out what I'm thinking. When it's your turn, I always find it — I have a master's in psychology and I listen for a living.

7. Story in turns

We build a scene together, one sentence each. I set the place — a hotel bar in San Juan, an empty first-class cabin, a rainy night in a cabin in the mountains — and you add the next line, then me, then you. Neither of us controls where it goes, which is exactly what makes it hot. It's the easiest way into role play phone sex for men who've never tried it.

8. Simon says (adult rules)

You only obey instructions that start with "Raquel says." If you follow one that doesn't, you lose a point, and three lost points mean a penalty I choose. It's silly for the first minute and very intense by the tenth, because you start hanging on every word. Men who like being told what to do love this one; so do men who like getting caught.

9. The denial game

You're not allowed to finish tonight — unless you earn it. Each challenge you complete earns you a minute closer to permission; each slip costs you two. Some nights you win. Some nights the game ends with a promise to save it for our next call and report back. If being teased and denied is your favorite feeling, also read about sensual domination.

10. Say it in Spanish

A game only a bilingual woman can play. I say something in Spanish; you guess what it means. Close enough and I tell you in English, slowly. Wrong, and I make you repeat it back until your accent is perfect. Most men lose on purpose. If my voice in two languages is your thing, try dirty talk phone sex in English or Spanish.

Phone sex games vs. sexting games

Many of these work as sexting games too — would you rather, truth or dare and story in turns are easy to play by text. But text loses the best part: the pause before an answer, the laugh, the breath that tells you a dare landed. On a call, a game moves in real time and nobody can edit what they said. If you've only played by text, try one by voice and you'll hear the difference immediately.

House rules for every game

• Limits first, always — and a stop word that ends any game instantly.
• Adults only, consenting, and nobody involved who isn't on the call.
• Passing is allowed. It just costs you a truth.
• The loser pays a fun penalty, never a cruel one.

Play with me tonight

Call 1-844-493-9007, tell me which game, and I'll set the rules. New callers pay $2.99/min for the first 10 minutes, then $4.99/min, with a 10-minute minimum per call — enough for two or three rounds. Prices are on my rates page, and if you want the most minutes for your money, start with cheap phone sex. I answer from 8 AM to 12 AM Puerto Rico time.

Questions callers ask

What are good sex games to play over the phone?

Guess what I'm wearing, phone truth or dare, would you rather, edging countdowns, JOI dice, hot and cold, story in turns, adult Simon says, the denial game and bilingual 'say it in Spanish' all work with voice only.

Do I need an app to play phone sex games?

No. Every game here only needs a phone call and a few rules agreed at the start.

Can couples play these games long distance?

Yes. They're designed for voice calls, so long-distance couples can play them with each other.

Can I play phone sex games with Raquel?

Yes. Call 1-844-493-9007, tell Raquel which game you want, and she sets the rules.

How much does a game call cost?

New callers pay $2.99 per minute for the first 10 minutes, then $4.99 per minute, with a 10-minute minimum per call.

Who can call?

Adults 18 and over only.